When I was training to be a battered women’s advocate, my supervisor said something that really blew my mind:
“You can always assume one thing about your clients; and that is that they are doing their best. Always assume everyone is doing their best. And if they’re having a day where their best just isn’t that great, or their best doesn’t look like your best, you have to be okay with that.”
Any now whenever anyone in my life, either a friend or a client, frustrates me, disappoints me, or pisses me off, I just tell myself They are doing their best. Their best isn’t that great today, but I have days where my best isn’t that great either.
Op I’d like to thank you for sharing this. Ever since the first time I’ve read it I’ve held it in my mind and it really has helped me to be kinder to others and to myself.
Sorry for not answering any of the ask game questions yet yall, I’ve been moving out of my dorm for winter break. I’ll answer them as soon as I finish unpacking.
hot take… “let men show platonic affection towards each other without saying they’re gay” is useless and bad discourse and we should instead focus on gay men not being seen as gross and wrong
Both are good. Because the same thing happens when men and women are close platonically; people automatically assume they’re attracted to each other romantically. There’s nothing wrong with being gay, but there IS still something wrong with assuming that friendship always signifies or leads to romance.
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